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Do you generally hold grudges? Can you think of a time where it was (or still is) difficult to forgive someone? What was the situation?
Not really, I'm more of the blow up, be mad for 10 minutes, then cry and it's over.

As for ex's. My ex married the woman he cheated on me with. I wasn't happen with either one of them. And when they were first together it was a lot of drugs and alcohol so I didn't let my son visit at their house. His had supervised visits at his parents house. BUT a few years later she was diagnosed with cancer and changed her life for the better and one of those things was my son. She really became a good step-mother to him. She was hospitalized one year and my son was making one of those personalized cards from a vending machine. When it came to putting her name he stopped and kept looking at the video keyboard. I ask him if he wanted to put "mom" and he nodded and he did. After that we started talking when she came to his parents, (did I mention I was with the boy next door, literally, his parents lived next door to us) and we became friends. He was still doing the drugs and alcohol but she really changed. She wrote me a letter once telling me that to change her life-style she had to stop seeing her druggie friends and didn't have any friends left, and would I be her friend. I said yes, but we could never talk about her husband, lol

She passed away a few years ago and I sit here crying just thinking about her. My son loved her and that's all that mattered to me.

But to this day I still don't talk to my ex, he's still a druggie and I don't need that, so maybe I do hold a gudge, lol



See this is why I stick to Arashi fandom.  I heard a song by a british band that I've basically been ignoring for 4yrs and I like this song, I find a few more songs I like and I go to Youtube and start watching interviews.  They remind me very much of Arashi, the dorkiness, goofyness, the fun and laughter.  So I I've never had a problem ording things in the Arashi fandom so I though...go for it.

I pre-ordered their new album...it was to arrive the Friday before November 17.  I'm still waiting, they said they sent it on November 21, it's now Dec 2 and I have no album.

I'm sticking with the Arashi fandom...




Is anyone else having difficulty getting into the site?  I've been trying to for hours.  Are they doing up-dating?

Thank you!


Korean Drama Faith

I really looked forward to this drama...and I'm enjoying 80% of it.  

I love watching Lee Min Ho in everything he does, I love the supernatural/fantasy aspects of the show, I even enjoy the banter between the bad guy and everyone he talks to, lol  I love his warrior soldiers, I love the love story developing between the secondary characters (won't mention them because of spoilers.  Hell, the Kings' Aide doesn't even annoy me that much...wait yeah he does, lol  

And then we have....HER...Collapse )

Can I just say at this point in the drama that the main female character Dr. Yoo Eun-Soo (I am NOT taking about the actress, just the character) is the dumbest, cruelest, most self-centered, most idiotic female lead I've seen in a long time, Korean, Japanese, or Chinese drama included.  I'm shocked at her very less than Dr attitude.  And I understand that the vase thingie was meant to be funny but it just made me see her as greedy.  (I mean come on she brings it back they test it and find out its 2yrs old, give me a break.)  I keep expecting her to ACT like a doctor but she doesn't.  (i.e person faints, gets stabbed, the doctor usually goes right into doctor mode, not her she just stands there and mouths off about how this is effecting her, hey your a freaking doctor, at least throw something on it to stop the blood.

And can I say stupid...very stupid.  General Choi Young deserves someone so much smarter.  Again, this is just my opinion and I'm venting.  I hope she finds a brain somewhere along the way.

Saseang Fans

If I hear one more person say Saseang fans are a result of Cultural differences I think I will scream.

Cultural differences...I'd say.  When was the last time hundreds of fans followed another countries star/idol in a taxi for two days?  When did Justin Bieber fans put up camera's in his home? When was the last time Jamaican fans broke into Rhianna's
 home and took pictures of her sleeping?  When was the last time Adelle's fans lined up by the hundreds to watch her eat in a restaurant?  When was the last time Helene Segara fans wrote a letter to her in period blood?  Hey, when was the last time you spent your life savings on following John Mayer?

If this is a cultural difference, then there is something seriously going wrong in your Cultural.  You don't have one or two lone people stalking these idols like other countries do,  you have hundred's maybe even thousands. Where are these so called "immature fans" (the laws name for them) getting this money to pay for all this?  Where are their families?  Sasaeng fans are out of control in Korea and I've yet to see any law enforcement agencies actually taking any of them seriously. 

Then you have the flip side, sasaeng  fans grabbing idols genitals, breaking into their homes, watching them sleep, and the idol's instant reaction is to defend themselves and suddenly they are the worst human beings in the world.  So-called true fans will take to every fan board to let the world know how despicable they find their idols.  Hey somebody grabs my genitals I'm hauling off and smacking them too.  Why not, you would do the same thing, but this idol who for some reason Asian fans hold above human law, no they are not allowed to.  They have to be better than human, they have to be IDOL's.  Which hey, this doesn't make sense to me.

I think some of these sasaeng fans should have to do some time in jail plus pay large fines for what they are doing.  This "but they are just immature fans" is wrong, you don't break into someone's home due to immaturity, you break into someones home due to stupidity and no education or morals.   I also think some of these management companies should start prosecuting these fans.  If they break the law the Company of said idol should do everything in their power to keep their idols safe.  Are they always going to put the pocketbooks of the fans before their idols?  It's going to happen sooner of later, one day, the true fans are going to pick up the paper or listen to the news to hear that your favorite idol is dead, dead at the hands of a sasaeng fan.  Isn't there anything that can stop this?


Mikeneko Holmes no Suiri...


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ACTA in a Nutshell –

What is ACTA?  ACTA is the Anti-Counterfeiting Trade Agreement. A new intellectual property enforcement treaty being negotiated by the United States, the European Community, Switzerland, and Japan, with Australia, the Republic of Korea, New Zealand, Mexico, Jordan, Morocco, Singapore, the United Arab Emirates, and Canada recently announcing that they will join in as well.

Why should you care about ACTA? Initial reports indicate that the treaty will have a very broad scope and will involve new tools targeting “Internet distribution and information technology.”

What is the goal of ACTA? Reportedly the goal is to create new legal standards of intellectual property enforcement, as well as increased international cooperation, an example of which would be an increase in information sharing between signatory countries’ law enforcement agencies.

Essential ACTA Resources

  • Read more about ACTA here: ACTA Fact Sheet
  • Read the authentic version of the ACTA text as of 15 April 2011, as finalized by participating countries here: ACTA Finalized Text
  • Follow the history of the treaty’s formation here: ACTA history
  • Read letters from U.S. Senator Ron Wyden wherein he challenges the constitutionality of ACTA: Letter 1 | Letter 2 | Read the Administration’s Response to Wyden’s First Letter here: Response
  • Watch a short informative video on ACTA: ACTA Video
  • Watch a lulzy video on ACTA: Lulzy Video

Say NO to ACTA. It is essential to spread awareness and get the word out on ACTA.

Via Tumblr


If you are in the US, the only thing I know of is this petition, which requires 25000 signatures in 30 days for any sort of response: https://wwws.whitehouse.gov/petitions#!/petition/end-acta-and-protect-our-right-privacy-internet/MwfSVNBK

There are only 3000 signatures right now.

I don't know what options there are in other countries, but again, for the US, I imagine calling Senators would be a course of action. It worked on the surface for SOPA and PIPA, at least, and it at least sends the message that this is not okay.

If you do, though, [personal profile] opusculus notes that it has been signed already so it is probably worthwhile to mention that you know that and are protesting it anyway.

ETA: this tumblr post has more global resources for how you can protest ACTA.

Half Ass Subbing

Okay, I've been running around and playing on the internet for a long time, since about 1997, but this week, I finally found something that makes me go Huh...WTF??  


Okay.  Just watched the last episode of Bartender, and sad to say I was disappointed.   Not with Aiba or any of the other actors, I truly believe they did a fine job with what they were given.  I think Aiba's acting improved so damn much from My Girl and that made me proud of him.  (But then again if he just walks on set and smiles I would probably be happy.  I think if they bottle Aiba's happiness and that damn smile we would have peace in the world...ah sorry I stumble in my Aiba love)

But I'm truly disappointed in the writing.  As anyone who has worked in a bar or even sat in a bar knows, being a bartender is not about the guy who can make the best drinks.  That is only a part of it, what makes a good bartender is how they make a drink plus how  they treat their customers, how they interact with them.  Is it a good atmosphere?  Are you going to make them want to come back again and again.   You can walk into the most expensive bar in town and if the bartender doesn't make you feel welcome, if the atmosphere is not welcoming it's not going to be a good place to come and enjoy yourself.

Aiba's character Ryu Sasakura was a very good bartender, he not only cared about mixing drinks, he truly cared about the person sitting on the other side of the bar.  He  wanted them to enjoy their drink but he also wanted them to enjoy taking a seat in the bar he was working in, wanted them to have a good time, wanted the customer to come back again and again not just because of the drinks but because of the atmosphere, the environment, because they ENJOYED their time there.  

The writers did not write Nobuaki Kaneko's character Ryuichi Kuzuhara in any way, shape or form as a REAL bartender.  There was nothing that led us to believe he even cared about the person sitting across from him.  All I ever got from him is that he wanted to be a FAMOUS bartender.  Anything else was unacceptable.  Which is not a bad thing, everyone should have goals, but we saw what happened if and when things didn't go his way, he got angry and violent.  Not something I want in my boss.  He walso cold, uncaring and the small storyline of "he's doing it because of a promise to the woman he loved" fell flat for me because he never came off as even having human emotions.  They showed a few seconds of him placing flowers on a busy street for his dead fiance and another few seconds of saying he owed Taizo Kurushima for giving him a chance, but this was not enough to make me the viewer  think "ah, here's a loving man who is doing this for love".  If he was doing it for love then he would be a bit warmer, a bit more human, especially in his relationships with his co-workers. Working for him would mean you are always being kept on pins and needles, always wondering "is he going to go off and fire me today." Not a good working environment.   I never got "the loving boyfriend" vibe from Ryuichi.  I actually felt he was a control freak who had to be the best and only the best (from his "I will crush you" statement to Ryu).  I think I will always wonder what would have happened if he had lost the job of head bartender of Cardinal, would he have quit tendering bar, would he have become even more bitter about life.  I get the whole lets make the bar famous but hey, if my bartender went off on the help in front of me the customer while I was there to enjoy myself I definitely would not be returning to this bar.

Taizo Kurushima, hey Grandpa did you ever think of actually training your granddaughter to take over the business...for being a genius business man that wasn't a smart move.  And it was amazing to me that people were moving to take over the business even before the will was read.  And the whole "the bar has to be up and running in 24hrs or we could lose the entire business" made me laugh.  I thought give me a break.  Very badly written, don't treat your viewer as if they have no education. (I know it's a small point but sometimes small points irk me)

Goro Kaso, wow what a great mentor, you forgot to rinse your spoon, get out, you're too full of yourself, you are not a real bartender!  (Maybe it was the translation but Ryu DID rinse the spoon. the translation I had was "you must rinse the spoon in water after using the oil--yep, I definitely saw him do this)  Even if Ryu started to become a bit of an egomanic a good mentor would have known when and how to pull him back and put him in his place and using it as a teaching tool at the same time.  Goro just washed his hands of him, very piss poor in my book. 

Miwa Kurushima, I'm sorry I don't have much to say about her, even though she was considered one of the top stars I really don't remember a lot of her scenes.  It wasn't the actress herself because I loved her in "Love Shuffle" and liked when she guested on Arashi shows.  No, it wasn't the actress but I think the writers didn't use her to her potential, there could have been a bit more with Ryu and her but they missed the opportunity.  And as for the working from the bottom up, good in theory but I just don't see a big corporation doing something like that.  Could cause resentment from fellow workers,especially other women.

Kaoru Sugiyama, Hajime Sakura, Kotobuki Sakura, Jyunji Mihashi and Yoko Itsuki, okay loved most of these characters, the writers can write very well for secondary characters.  They weaved in and out of the story without really changing the story lines.  These characters could be removed without changing the story at all, but if you did remove them it would take away some of the few moments I enjoyed.  Sugiyama and his rivalry with Ryu, it was cute but not overdone.  Hajime was a wonderful boss, professional yet open, you knew you could go to him with a problem.  I liked that.  The restaurant owners were great with bringing the comedy relief, just the right touch.  Her boss...well, not much to say about her, she was there that's all you can say.

Ryo Nishikido...why?  I'm wondering why?  I can't really remember anything except him sitting there looking pretty.

And my BIG ISSUE...all we heard throught the entire series was "Glass of the Gods".  "A drink that will save someone".  Ah, excuse me but Ryuichi's drink saved her bank account, it didn't save her.  Ryu did that, he proved by changing his drink at the last moment that his customer comes first, always.

Every episode we heard how "this is what made a bartender", well folks, Ryu met every criteria and then some.  He cared, he was professional, he made his customers his friends, made then aware that they aren't alone and that is what makes a REAL bartender.

And on a side note if a customer throws a drink in the bartenders face just because he doesn't like the taste well folks he'd be the one shown the door, not the bartender. And flip the coin, if you fire your bartender for one mistake, without using it as a learning tool well, you're one hell of a lousy boss.  Oh wait, that's Ryuichi and Goro Kase. 

Well, that's about it.  A small part of me hopes it was the translation but I don't think that's the case.  This drama left me wanting, wanting quite a bit actually.  Hopefully Aiba's next drama will have much better writing.




I admit I'm still fairly new to all this livejournal stuff, but I have a question...

This is one thing I've always been confused about.  People freak out about stuff going up on Dramacrazy.net and other sites but yet they put their names all over the videos.

And then I see LJ wars between people, lj's, communities because they weren't credited if they do allow it to go up at other lj's.  But honestly if I was posting illegal content on the internet I wouldn't want my name on it at all, not even a posting name that can easily be tracked back to me. 

This is my question, if you don't want to get caught putting video content up that doesn't belong to you why do you post names all over it...i.e. "subbed by arashinipple-t-shirts" (I made that up by the way). 

I just don't get that.  You realize it's illegal, but everyone still does it. 

I love Arashi, I don't want to lose see the wonderful video's, but I'm still confused.


there's probably only me reading this anyway, lol